I gave a keynote speech a few nights ago. It was awful. I was sweating, nervous and light-headed. I didn’t connect with the audience and several of my jokes fell flat.
I could begin to give you 101 excuses. Here they go ….. I could not work the powerpoint projector. My mind was frazzled from two root canals and pain killer medication. I neglected to eat.
But despite the horrible outcome, I feel okay!
Because I am telling myself a new story.
A few people did come up to me afterward and say that they took over 5 pages of notes. Another person mentioned that my speech motivated them to pursue a new goal.
I feel okay because the positive comments I did receive represent the new movie that I am playing in my mind. You always have the power to look at a past situation differently.
Change your inner movie and you will change your life.
Things only have as much meaning as you give them.
Here are a few steps you can take to recover quickly from your next failure:
1. Find the good. No matter how great the loss there is always something you can learn from any situation.
2. Change the question. Move away from “How Could I Be So Stupid?” to “What Can I Learn from This Situation?”
3. Focus on a past win. Remember your past success. It will help you to realize that this experience does not define you.
4. Focus on a future win. What’s next for you? How will your recent stumble ensure a future victory?
5. Cultivate the attitude of gratitude. Your worst day is another person’s best day. Be grateful and realize that you can only do better.
6. Share your story. My mistakes have only made me a better business coach.
7. Swing Again. Get back up there and do it again!
I have another speech to give today and tomorrow. My audiences will benefit from yesterday’s disaster.
I pray that you are on the road to recovery from your own personal setbacks. Remember that the test is the testimony!
I would love to hear how you recover from failure. Post your comments.
President, Small Business Camp
P.S. I have several great programs planned for the summer. I hope to connect with you at these events. I promise that my next speech will be my best speech.
Power Networking Conference Thursday, June 28th to Saturday, June 30thDallas, Texashttp://powernetworkingconference.com/
Jumpstart Your Ideas at Idea Exchange Webcast. Attend in-person at the Harlem State Office building in NYC or view the “live” webcast. This is an innovative FREE* networking format that allows you to connect with the people, resources and opportunities to advance in your career, grow a business or expand a non-profit. Tuesday, July 10th from 6-8pm EST. Register at http://julyideaexchange.eventbrite.com/
Write, Print and Market Your Book in 16 Weeks Video Webcast From the comfort of your home, you can spend a day with a community of individuals who are committed to writing a book in a weekend! Imagine creating a small 24 to 48 page book that brands your brilliance. Just watch our “live” webcast during the day to receive the education and motivation to become a self-published author. This 12-hour educational experience will be held on Saturday, July 21st from 9am until 9pm. Register at http://bookin16.eventbrite.com/ and receive $100 off with promotional code: DOIT
Virtual Summer Biology Camp The Mentoring in Medicine Virtual Summer Biology Camp is coming to a computer near you. High school and college students are invited to learn advanced biology and train to become a MIM Community Health Ambassador. The best part is that it’s … FREE!!! The dates are Monday, July 9th until Friday, July 20th from 2-5pm daily. You can register at http://mimcamp.eventbrite.com/ You only need a computer with internet access and the desire to succeed.
Virtual Small Business Camp for Youth Two week on-line summer camp from Monday, July 23rd until Friday, August 3rd that shows young people from ages 12 to 24 how to launch a for-profit or non-profit business.Register at http://youngceocamp.eventbrite.com/
National Sales Network Baltimore, MDAugust 9th to 11thhttp://www.salesnetwork.org/
Small Business Camp Weekend How would you like to spend a weekend creating the products and developing the strategies that can grow any business or non-profit idea in 16 weeks? Attend in-person or online. Friday, August 24th from 7-9pm and Saturday, August 25th from 9am until 9pm in NYC. Register athttp://bizcampweekend.eventbrite.com/ Save $100 with promotional code: SBC